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Lisa Joy 💜🏳️‍🌈's avatar

Wow. What a fortunate family. ❤️

I loved reading the love and pride in this. I wish I had felt that loved and accepted as a child. Never stop letting your kids know you are proud of them. I only heard those words once in my life.

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Soso's avatar

Great and beautiful article Dana ❤️‍🔥😍

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Dana DuBois's avatar

Thanks so much, Soso!

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Polly Walker Blakemore's avatar

Another way to look at pride is as an absence of shame. Maybe that's a more fitting meaning of the word for Nico and their coming out.

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Hannah's avatar

I get where you are coming from and maybe you are right for your community. Have you talked to your kid - how they feel about the pride aspect? I came out about 5 years ago and I'd say today it takes more courage than "back then". I feel it is still not easy, almost any kid will contemplate it for a while - except maybe those who declare it in early childhood like 3 years or so.

We (trans people) often have mixed feelings about being called "brave". Because it implies there was an option or an "I couldn't have done it" on the other side. My wife also got sick of the comments that bordered on "condolences" for my coming out. So yes, calling people "brave" can absolutely come from a wrong place, from an othering place.

But we still live in the face of danger, we still live in spite of a growing political movement trying to erase us - I think we can be proud of not letting them.

And I'm proud of living something resembling a normal life, despite the fear of what will come haunting me every day. I'm terrified, I think about having to flee or whether I will die a natural death at all in this climate. And each day I try not to lose hope, to fight for what is right and accept this might be worth more than living a long violence-free life.

And I think I can be proud of that - and it looks to me as if your child has the same spirit.

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John Pearce😀🦋🌈 🦅🌻's avatar

I would be proud of them for coming out, as well as all their other attributes Dana. 😀From your article I would guess that you are still struggling with the pronoun thing as much as I do - as an intellectually-challenged Boomer, I have had even more to get my head around!

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Wendy The Druid 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🌈's avatar

Amazing , as always Dana.

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